Love marriage or arrange marriage is a great topic of discussion among male and female groups of people, mostly in youngsters. Not only in our society but also in other parts of the countries too.
As in our country and society, parents used to select life partners for their children. Most of the children respect their parents’ decision and accept their choices while some do not rely on their parents about their marriages. They want their own choice. Some parents do not allow their children to get married with their selected one and oppose their choices and do not help them in making their will. In these cases children go against to their parents and get married against the wish of their parents.
Usually, Parents make it their ego problem when their children tell them about their choice, mostly in this type of cases parents refuse their selected spouse and oppose them. The fact is, parents mostly start thinking about their children marriage from their early childhood and make choices, but when their children tell them about their wish, parents refuse them and rejects to help them if they made their choices.
In case of love marriages, when parents refuse to help their children and ignore their own wish, children do court marriages without their family support and positive acts. When the couple starts living together, they had to face so many problems related to financial and economic problems. They start fighting and abandon each other when they don’t find any positive response from society, relatives and their parents and then things go longer and end with break ups.
In case of arrange marriages, parents support their children in every situation because they had their wish in their children’s marriage. If in any case, couples get any misunderstanding, parents help them in clearing their thoughts about each other and try to resolve their matters with full support.
It is a common concept in our societies that love marriages live very short life while arrange marriages remain strong and are everlasting. This is a very common issue of our society, now the trends are changing. This is not the hard and fast rule that arrange marriages lasts forever and love marriages breaks early. It all depends on the managing your relations.
The issue is not about the love marriage and arranges marriage, it’s all about how to handle your relations and everything related to them. If children wish to marry their own choice, parents should behave humbly and must think about their children wish. They should not make it their ego problem. No doubt, parents know much than children but before knowing their children choice they should not oppose them and in case of arrange marriages, parents should not force their children to marry with that supposed spouse, they have been thinking for their children. This kind of situation also creates problems in the future.
Parents and children must understand each other and while making the biggest decision of their life, they must concern each other to avoid future problems.