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view of the importance of stable matrimonial relations
and their effect upon the total society, it is decided
to conduct a research on the causes of divorce" |
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Family is the oldest, the basic and universal
institution. It is the family that mediates between the individuals
in the society, and helps to take his place in the world at
large and simultaneously is providing protection and privacy.
It perpetuates the race and acts as chief agency of socialization
of the children.
Family meets the emotional needs of its members provide physical
care and growth of personality equips the children to live
successfully as a member of the society. Thus it can be safely
said that family is of paramount importance in the world.
The structure and- organization of the society revolves around
this unit. Any disorganization within the family may become
the cause of disorganization of the society that may create
serious obstacles in the developmental activities of a nation.
The foundation of family is laid through marriage. Family
and marriage cannot be separated from each other; both are
cause and effect of each other. To be a husband or wife is
to be endowed with rights and obligations by the operation
of law. Marriage has got many important functions to perform
as said by Muhammad (1976).
Even Islam forbids celibacy and stresses marriage for the
proper functioning of the society as Alt (1975) says: "Islam
is against celibacy and considers marriage to be one of the
.essential duties of a Muslim”
To Rinehart (1957) divorce represents the legal dissolution
of the marriage, it certainly is me final one.
Divorce according to Islam can be effective only when all
efforts- of reconciliation are exhausted. The period of three'
months known as "Iddat" is given to both the parties as a
final opportunity' for column thinking and deliberation. After
that if they may not come to reconciliations, they can be
set apart Dawood (1956), says: The Prophet Muhammad (Peace
be upon him) gave permission of divorce very hesitatingly,
"If you divorce your wives, divorce them at the, end of their
waiting period".
In our society separation of couple occurs in extreme cases
of maladjustment. In our religion divorce is permitted, but
in extreme cases. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him)
has said that "of all things permitted, the most obnoxious
in the sight of God is divorce" (Khan, 1962).
Divorce is considered lo be one of the important factors responsible
for the disruption of the mutual relations since its very
occurrence is destined to break the family ties, which marriage
had made. Divorce occurs on many grounds such as economic,
Psychological, mantel marriage or the "Watta satta" basis
in which the educated boys cannot find educated girls that
leads to misgivings and misunderstanding between husband and
wife.
The ground for divorce differs to some extent in each social
class in urban arrangement. Five to ten percent of all marriages
end in divorce, whereas one .hardly ever hears of broken marriages
in village (Amin, 1978).
In working class, even when a woman thinks she would be happier
by ending her marriage realizes, there is little she can do
about it.
In our society, "Haq-Mehr" and dowry are important social
values which sometime may be the cause of divorce. This may
be based on reasoning that there is a high competition and
the amount of expenditures on such festivities reflects the
prestige of the families. The united states has the highest
divorces rate i.e. 5.1 percent include Sweden, 3.3 percent
in USSR, 2.95 percent in Cuba, 2.3 percent and Egypt, 2.0
percent (Broosk, 1978).
In the past few years, many people in different professions
and from different parts of the political spectrum have been
taking a new look at divorce. They have come up with severed
kinds of proposals that would reduce divorce. These include
requiring both spouses’ consent for a no-fault divorce; introduction
optional’ covenant marriage, ‘and pre-martial counsel requirement,
imposed either by churches and synagogues or by states.
A new awareness of the real causes and effects of divorce
began in the mid-1980s. Sociologists began to report that
women’s and children’s incomes nosedive after divorce. Economic
and legal scholars pointed out that our current divorce laws
lead to far more divorces than would be economically efficient
for the people involved, because of the laws let either spouse
the marriage for any reason. This encourages people to be
prepared for divorce and to look out their own self-interest,
rather than invest their entire lives in a marriage which
have legal protection. Many other scholars have discovered
that divorce has many bad effects on children; it greatly
increases the risks of emotional problems, teen pregnancy,
drugs problems, smoking, poverty and crime.
First Lady Hillary R. Clinton has written; ‘Recent studies
demonstrate convincingly that.........children living with
one parent or in step-families re two to three times more
likely to have emotional and behavioral problems as compared
to children living in two-parent families …Every society required
a critical mass of families that fit the traditional ideal,
both to meet the needs of most children and to serve as a
model for other adults who are raising children in difficult
settings. We are at risk of losing mass in America today’.
Finally, therapists and marriage counselors have come forward
to say that most marriages do not simply ‘fail’ because of
fate or predestination. Rather, 'What usually happens is that
people give up their marriages because they are not as committed
as they should to making it work?
State legislators have responded to these findings in several
ways. They introduced bills that would require the consent
of both spouses for most divorces if the family has children.
However, divorce would still be available without consent
in cases of things like abuse, desertion or adultery, using
the "fault" grounds of divorce that are still available in
most states. None of these bills passed yet in any state,
although they have come very close in some states.
Credit problems are common during divorce. As couples fight
over who pays what, creditors are left unpaid and unimpressed
with excuses. While divorce is pending, they try to search
out an agreement that allocates bill payment responsibility.
If this is not possible, ask the court to issue temporary
Support orders, but don't expect a court to care about past
due balances unless you are facing eviction or about to have
your electricity shut off. Issues relating to consumer debt
and other non-emergency items are unpaid for a year, two years,
or even longer.
The "crude" divorce rate is calculated on the basis of the
number of divorces per 1000 population. This provides a better
measure of the divorce rate because this allows us to compare
the rate over time and across the country by taking into account
the size of the population (number of people). However, this
number has a problem in that as it uses the entire population
(including children), some of whom are not married and question
of divorce does not arise (Robber, 1999).
An important question is what has caused the increase in the
divorce rate? Furstenberg (1994) noted that the United Stated
has one of the highest divorce rates in the world and that
this rate has continuously grown over the past 140 years.
He suggests that this pattern is connected to the cultural
value that Americans place on -independence. He asserts that
a culture that values independence encourages people to seek
their own personal development rather than stay committed
to family (Robert, 1999).
Mediation is an alternative means of settling disputes that
can save you thousands of rupees and many hours spent in protected
litigation. In family law disputes, mediation is often preferred
over litigation because ill facilitates future communication
between the parties which is necessary when the future of
the children is at stake.
The foundation of family is laid through marriage. After marriage
new phase of life starts with new obligations and responsibilities.
Mal-adjustment in matrimonial relationship leads to disharmony
in family life and indirectly affects the living patterns
of the members of the society. This disharmony sometimes ends
in divorce. It is essential to maintain stability and order
in the society, therefore, the reason of the initializing
forces (like divorce) should to found out.
In view of the importance of stable matrimonial relations
and their effect upon the total society, it is decided to
conduct a research on the causes of divorce. So that important
causes of disharmony in family life may come to light and
in future efforts should be made to avoid these factors.
The universe for the present study was the females who were
in district Faisalabad. Hundred cases were randomly selected
as a male consisting of females. Interviewing schedule was
used as a tool of data collection and data thus collected
were statistically interpreted.
The major findings of the study were:
- Majority of the female respondents belonged
to younger age group.
- Duration of marriage was not more than
10 years in more than three-fourth of the cases.
- Education level of the females was lower.
- In majority of the cases the marriage was
arranged by the parent.
- Major portion of the female respondents
did not like their count counterparts.
- Childlessness, bad character of the partner,
mental incompatibility, difference of education and social
status - are the various causes given by the respondents,
in support of their divorce cases.
- Education and income level of the counterpart
had association with their reason for getting divorce.
- Age of the respondents had no association
with their decision of getting divorce.
Conclusion
It can be safely said in the end that the reasons given by
the respondents should be properly and thoroughly probed,
so that something can be done to avoid these divorce causes
in future. Education, income and age level should be counted
as important factors by coming researchers and studies on
the bases of these factors should be conducted on enlarged
bases – base time and sample-wise. So that generalization
can be made on the bases of such studies.
Suggestions
Increase the educational level to reduce the divorce rate.
To reduce the watta satta marriages. Changed the family social
setup to reduce the divorce rate. Improve our economic and
.social conditions to reduce the divorce rate. To avoid the
low-age marriages.
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