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"A
pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities
and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his
difficulties." |
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“Whatever you can do with unhappiness you
can do better when you’re happy” (Neil 2006). Generally speaking
people can be categorized as being generally optimistic or
pessimistic. Optimistic people are noted for their ability
to see the good in everything, viewing the world as place
full of adventure and opportunity. Pessimistic people, on
the other hand, meet life with a sense of futility, viewing
the world with a certain level of cynicism and negativity.
We can see that today’s world is like everyone is in pain.
Why the world is facing too much trouble these days? Why this
chaos? Why this panic situation every where in the world today?
These are the questions everybody is being asking today. The
answer to these questions is that we are all thinking pessimism
more than optimism. By saying that I’m not quoting that there
are no problems but it is a true that most of today’s mass
of the world is always thinking negative especially in our
country Pakistan or more specifically most of the people of
the world are pessimists in my view. According to this quote
that “A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his
opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities
of his difficulties” (Harry Truman), most of the people
now a days are pessimists because they take everything in
negative sense you can see many examples of this in our daily
life like when you talk about anything they respond you in
a negative manner either its about country’s political situation,
or economic situation or anything else. I accept that are
problems in Pakistan but we should see the better side to
even it is a bit little. There are some good things happening
in some sectors of our country like our media is improving
day by day, we are growing in information technology as compare
to 20 to 30 years back, our education rate is not very good
but it is better than past some decades. I mean crisis arise
all over the world like political crisis, economic crisis
but educated and developed nations face those crisis and come
out successfully and I’m sure that Pakistan will come out
of these crisis too (INSHALLAH). We can check ourselves with
the help of chart below that either most of the people are
optimist or pessimists.
Optimistic
vs. Pessimistic Thinking |
Optimistic
Thinking |
Pessimistic
Thinking |
Challenge: open to change.
take risks.
willingness to make the effort.
'I can do it'
'I will try my best'
Control: take responsibility for their
actions. proactive.
'I have choices and options'
'If I make a mistake I will do whatever it takes to correct
it'
Commitment: tendency to persist.
'I will keep trying until it works'
'I will make it happen' |
Personalize: tendency
to take the blame for everything. freeze.
'Its my fault'
'I am bad' or 'I am wrong'
Pervasive: tendency to over-generalize.
feel overwhelmed.
'Everything I do is wrong'
'I can do nothing right'
'I always make a mess of things'
Permanent: tendency to exaggerate.
'It will always be this way'
'Nothing I do will make it change'
'It is always a mess' |
On the other hand our religion Islam also
not in favour of pessimism. According to Islam a true Muslim
is always seeking blessings of ALLAH without being a pessimist.
So generally speaking it can be said that a Muslim is an optimist.
Now evaluate ourselves how much true Muslims we are??????
It’s true that there are many problems but the thing I’m trying
to convey is that either we can face these problems with great
courage or otherwise. It is well said that “when the going
gets tough then the tough gets going”. It is more worthy to
be an optimistic who occasionally engages in pessimistic thinking
than a pessimist who occasionally engages in optimistic thinking.
Studies proved that optimist nations enjoy better health and
age. A Harvard study that followed the lives of 99 students
from the age of 25 found that those who were initially classified
as optimists at that young age were significantly healthier
at the ages of 45 and 60. Research conducted on cancer patients
has shown that those who are optimists have healthier outcomes
than those who are pessimists. When there are problems every
where and if we turned into pessimist mode then it’ll be very
hard to cope with those problems. An optimist recover faster
from a setback than a pessimist which lesser the tension for
optimist. If you always see the brighter side of things, you
may feel that you experience more positive events in your
life than others, find yourself less stressed, and even enjoy
greater health benefits. “Maintaining a hopeful, positive,
yet real perspective in the face of adversity can be a real
challenge - one many are facing right now in the world - but
it is essential to living peacefully and happily. Just as
it is important to recognize what is unjust and unfair in
our lives and the world, it is equally important to see the
beauty, love, generosity, and goodness as well. Being gentle
and loving with ourselves when we make mistakes, or when bad
things happen is key to being hopeful and optimistic. And
even if you're not sure it's possible, you can do it!” (Kali
Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist, 2001).
Concluding this I would like to say that we should not and
we can’t ignore the reality because pessimism is in the human
nature but even try to be optimists because optimism pays
more than pessimism in my view.
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